I know that my future is going to involve being less agreeable. Less focused on being acceptable to others and more centred on my own agency as an individual.
I’ve learnt over the past years that standing up for myself and following my own path isn’t selfish or ugly. It doesn’t mean trampling on other people or only considering my own needs.
It means being assertive. Holding onto my own power centre so I know that my value isn’t what others think of me, how much they praise me or how pleased I make them. My value and self-esteem are determined from within.
It means carving out my own path. Holding onto the truth I don’t need to fit in. I just need to be.
It means coming home time and time again to myself. Creating a space where I reconnect with myself so that my mind and heart can coexist in harmony.
I sense this is the next stage on my journey to stopping people pleasing. I will say ‘no’ more often. I will speak my mind more often. Not to be unkind or difficult, but because I am starting to see that otherwise I’m clipping my own wings, making myself small to fit in and that’s not a price I’m comfortable paying anymore.
So here’s to taking up space and being less agreeable. It may not be an even, smooth road but it will definitely be a memorable one!