I’ve been feeling unbalanced recently.
Knowing that Jenson needs to come first for this period in my life, but also knowing that the current dynamic isn’t doing anyone good.
I’m (putting myself) under pressure and am getting physically sick as a result.
I’ve got too much work and not enough play in my life.
Most of my closest friends don’t live in Brighton.
I need to make a change but I didn’t know what to do, until I listened to a recent episode of the motherkind podcast (shout out to my friend Jess who repeatedly recommended it to me until I got my ass in gear and subscribed to it!).
It was with a lady who created project me, a website and business focusing on people taking small steps to improve their lives. Her focus is on coaching wheels, where you look at how you feel in a variety of areas and then take steps to improve them. I’ve given you what my ‘wheel’ looks like below, with peaks in work and family, middling in love, friends, self-growth and finance and lower levels around health and fun:
It was a good reminder of this tool – one which can be really powerful.
The thing which struck me more than anything about the episode (apart from the presenter and her guest both being a bit smug about how great their lives are!) was what Kelly, founder of Project Me, said about the power of meeting with other women who were keen to work on their own lives too.
They’d meet once a month to review their wheels, talk about what they wanted to do next to improve their lives. They coached each other, supported each other and provided a safe space for each other to explore and take action.
I want some of that!
But I didn’t know how I could get some of it in my life….and that’s when I decided to just put a shoutout to the universe (via Facebook!) to search for other mamas who wanted to get a bit more balance and self-care in their lives too.
And I was bowled over by the response.
There were so many other women who were keen to get together. So many others who were struggling but keen to get a better balance in their lives.
So we’re going to meet up in March to see what we can do to get this support group going.
I’ve got no clue how many people will be there – maybe 20, maybe 2.
But now I don’t feel so alone.
Now I feel like I might be able to take some steps to address the areas in my life that are slightly out of balance.
Now I feel excited about what the future will hold.