I arranged a meet-up for likeminded mamas who wanted to gain more balance in their lives this Saturday just passed. (I wrote about what it’s for here).
As I was waiting for strangers I didn’t know would show up or not, wondering if this was the biggest mistake for how I was choosing to spend some precious alone time on a Saturday afternoon, I spoke these words to myself:
Whatever happens today, I’m showing up.
I’m choosing to gain more balance in my life.
I’m deciding to take action so that my life is not just work, Jenson and mindless zombie staring at a TV screen in the evening.
And so I showed up and, with the three other mothers who came along, I got real value from our time together.
I heard stories of different couples and realised that I am not my best self with Gregg a lot of the time –
So that was a great realisation, something I can be aware of and perhaps try to change.
During our time together, I also explored where I wanted to get more balance in my life and here’s what I decided:
I committed to planning a date night with Gregg over the next month and promised to spend a few hours each Wednesday evening doing something I enjoy which isn’t sitting in front of the TV like a zombie. It most probably will be blogging, cooking, painting my nails, learning something new, exercising, having a bath, calling a friend for a chat…something that nourishes me.
I also got a glimpse of what I could work on over the coming weeks and months – regaining more intimacy with my husband (sorry family, if you’re reading this!), committing to spending less on coffee, having slightly less sugar in my diet, reconnecting with my emotions…
In those two hours, I understood the power of meeting as a group of women instead of as a group of mums – supporting each other, challenging each other, gaining new perspectives on things.
And although we shared our struggles and threw in some funny stories of our lives, I felt the same thing that one of the participants shared – how it felt different to a usual mum meet-up because we were focused on outcomes.
We weren’t merely saying what was tough in our life and getting emotional support, we were each challenged to say ‘so what next?! What am I going to do about this?!’ in whatever big or small way.
It felt so good to meet up with other mums and I can’t wait for our next meet-up in four weeks time.
- Grumpy if I have too little sleep
- Unbearable if I’m hungry
- So bent up on ‘alone time’ that I can argue over Jenson like he’s a commodity (“you had 2 hours of alone time yesterday, I want exactly that time to myself today”)