I’m sat here in a café in Australia, whilst my beautiful sister takes care of my son, Jenson, for the day.
Ahead of me is a wonderful day of celebration as one of my closest friends gets married and I celebrate the solstice where in Australia we have the longest day and in the UK we have the shortest day. A moment from which we will fall into greater darkness as the nights draw in or greater lightness as the days get longer.
It’s a day that is so special to me, pairing up both a celebration of love with the wedding and the celebration of the changing seasons of Mother Earth.
All the while being in Australia on holiday, how fantastic!
But over the past few days I recognised that I’ve not been my best self on holiday.
Because I haven’t put in place the measures needed for me to take full care of myself.
The first two weeks were spent in action. Working up to the wire, taking the plane over to Australia, dealing with jetlag, visiting Brisbane and having days full of fun based around my son and his needs. I’m so lucky that my family were happy to go with his flow, but it meant that we didn’t go with the flow of anyone else.
And my flow very much requires time alone to ￼slow down, listen to myself, decompress and reenergise.
But instead of doing that I just kept on pushing, kept on going, kept on surrounding myself with people.
This was to the detriment of myself, other people and the detriment of my experience here on holiday￼.
I attended a solstice yoga session yesterday and it felt so good to be doing a practice that was so physical, releasing the anger and frustration I feel at myself for not having listened to my needs, for still being on this journey where I find myself again and again pushed beyond my means.￼￼
But as I said here, I realise this is a learning process.
Finding myself after the fact not having done what I needed.
And one day this will shift and I will find myself in the moment thinking “hang on a second Amy, ￼you need time by yourself.￼”.
And then it will become natural, and I won’t even think twice about taking time for myself and finding moments of quiet to re-centre and the balance myself￼.
So with kindness I remind myself that I have not waited until after the fact, after the holiday when I feel battered and bruised, metaphorically lying on the floor a broken person, to take action. I started my journey earlier than before. I reached out and asked my sister for help and support.