So I’m guessing that if you’ve clicked on this page you struggle with comfort eating or binge drinking in one way or another. You’re not alone in this – food and drink are what many people use to deal with stress, anxiety or to push down feelings that seem too hard to deal with.
But there is another way to live where you aren’t controlled by food or drink. I’m not talking about you developing strict dieting and controlling behaviour around food or never drinking again. I’m not talking about a journey in which the measure of success is whether you can fit into whatever sized clothes or get validation from other people about your food or drink behaviour.
I’m talking about a journey to being free from thinking about food or drink the whole time, being able to eat and drink in moderation and finding enjoyment and a lightness around food and drink, even when you’ve had one slice of cake or a drink too many.
No guilt, no shame, no feelings of unworthiness. Just love and acceptance of yourself and a healthy, balanced approach to food and drink.
I know from my experience how food and alcohol is often a way to push down uncomfortable feelings in life and I’ve discovered that the only way to change my relationship with food and drink is to untangle what’s going on underneath.
- Opening yourself up to the pain instead of numbing it with food and drink
- Speaking your mind instead of pushing your feelings down with cakes or wine
- Feeling the sadness instead of denying that you’re upset under endless packets of crisps or G&Ts
- Choosing to be seen as you are instead of hiding behind huge portions of chips or endless bottles
And that’s what we’ll do in our coaching sessions together. Untangle what’s really going on underneath.
As a coach I take a two-fold approach to overcoming unhealthy relationships with food and drink:
- Identifying and taking small, realistic and incremental steps day-to-day (whether that’s eating more greens, going to one social event without drinking or identifying a workout plan). You’ll get accountability with me and we’ll work towards building a life you feel excited about!
- Diving deep into the ‘why’ and ‘what’. Why is food or drink something you use to cope? What do you push down with food or drink? We’ll go at the right pace for you to uncover the true reasons for this behaviour so you can start to build some new coping mechanisms that serve you better and leave what isn’t serving you behind.
Once you’ve dealt with what’s going on underneath – and I know it’s true of myself – food and alcohol tends to be a non-issue. As I wrote in a blog post about my own struggles with comfort eating and eating disorders:
“…on your journey, you both need to fight against the disordered eating, but also accept that it’s not really about the eating at all – it’s about accepting, loving, forgiving yourself and making sense of what you’ve experienced.
It’s a paradox that feels nonsensical. But it’s true. It’s about food, but it’s not.
So pay attention to the food, but also pay attention to yourself. Value your thoughts, your feelings, your views. Because they may not always be right, but they are valid. You have the right to feel them. So push forward with finding your feet, accepting and listening to yourself.”
This will be what we work on together –
valuing your thoughts, feelings and views
accepting, loving, forgiving yourself
making sense of what you’ve experienced
I’ve come out the other side of comfort eating and binge drinking. That’s why I know you can too.
I can’t wait to support you on your journey to freedom with food and drink. Please fill the form out below to arrange a free 30 minute phone call to explore what you could get from working with me.